In your opinion, is money important in a relationship? Consider the 'transactional' element observed in the relationships between the couples. Do you think there is an upward trend of relationships and marriages valuing money over other qualities? Provide examples for your responses.
In my opinion, i feel that money is important in a relationship to a certain extent, although the true nature of marriage is love. Now, there is more focus on the 'love' factor between couples instead of the 'money' factor of the couple. In the past though, there was more focus in the 'money' factor of any potential spouse. In "Merchant Of Venice", Bassanio borrows money from Antonio to court Portia, to cover his expenses to Belmont as well as to impress her into marrying him, although later they both expressed that their "love at first sight". However, there have been cases of true found in Lorenzo and Jessica, although Jessica devises a cunning plot to "make fast the doors and gild myself with some more ducats, and be with you straight", showing how money can buy happiness to a certain extent.
Now, there are still people who marry out of money. These people are like parasites; they get attached to a 'host' and start taking the money, without giving them anything in return. In my opinion, that is not the way for any marriage. Marriage is a union of not only personal wealth, but also of hearts and minds. The warmth felt through mutual love for each other cannot be bought with money. However, money is still needed to live a comfortable life and to provide for one's basic needs. I feel that there isn't an upward trend of relationships and marriages valuing money over other qualities. Rather, i feel that now is the opposite, with love and other qualities taking priority over personal wealth. Still, now all marriages try to strike a balance between the two- they look for a mate whom they understand, appreciate, and admire, but also wish to be secure and comfortable financially so that they can enjoy their marriage more.
Now, there are still people who marry out of money. These people are like parasites; they get attached to a 'host' and start taking the money, without giving them anything in return. In my opinion, that is not the way for any marriage. Marriage is a union of not only personal wealth, but also of hearts and minds. The warmth felt through mutual love for each other cannot be bought with money. However, money is still needed to live a comfortable life and to provide for one's basic needs. I feel that there isn't an upward trend of relationships and marriages valuing money over other qualities. Rather, i feel that now is the opposite, with love and other qualities taking priority over personal wealth. Still, now all marriages try to strike a balance between the two- they look for a mate whom they understand, appreciate, and admire, but also wish to be secure and comfortable financially so that they can enjoy their marriage more.
I totally agree with your points of view. You can consider adding evidence to strengthen your arguments. For example, parasites can include some girls desperate to marry a man as long as he is rich and has money.
ReplyDeleteYou didn't state your stand on whether there is the presence of an upward trend in couples valuing money over love, but I suppose that you imply that you don't. That I agree with you, as the marriages that fail would be the materialistic marriages or spouses who cheat on each other. That raises a counter-evidence. The divorce rate is climbing and there is the ever-growing cheating of spouses in a relationship. Perhaps it is the morals of the 21st century, perhaps it is because people are getting too dirty-minded. However, there is this fact that is extremely obvious: That is is a critical problem to be resolved in the earliest convenience.